Rant & Raves

I just wish that you can find your true love

I looked at the tiny screen on my mobile, contemplating my course of action on responding to the text message. I pressed the “Reply” button, the cursor blinking, my fingers resting on the keypad, thinking how I should construct the sentence to tell her how I really feel.

Blink. Blink.

I am no longer in my late teens, so I don’t believe in true love anymore.

I pressed the “Close” button and exited the Messaging menu. Suddenly I realized that it is pointless for me to reply that message, and it is pointless for me to type out the way I look at relationship, or so-called love. She doesn’t need to understand my definition on this matter, but I am writing about it now because I feel like sharing my views and opinions with my readers.

I don’t believe in true love. Love is Disney Land, and also Hollywood. Yes, did you watch the cartoon by Disney when we were young, like Sleeping Beauty? Snow White? How about Cinderella? Let’s not forget my personal favorite, Mermaid, because it’s the only Disney cartoon that shows a girl half naked. Anyway, you get what I mean.

I don’t believe in “Forever” as 3 months is already a life time. When I heard someone said “I will love you forever”, I snickered and I believe the person saying it meant it at that time but he/she has no fucking idea how long is his/her definition of “forever”. More unfortunate is the fact that people like to be lied with, so when we hear our partner saying “I will love you forever”, we feel happy and we wanted to believe those words, hoping that forever is really forever.

So here’s my definition, and I am so going to Blockquote it.

Love, like marriage, is about finding a person whom you find comfort in, enjoying the company that this person provides, exploring and satisfying the basic needs of sex, appreciating this person’s good values, and most, and I do mean MOST, importantly, tolerating this person’s flaw.

There you have it, my definition of love, relationship, and marriage. You might agree with it, or disagree with it, but that’s just how I look at it, and how I generally feel about it.

After going through a few rough patches, meeting so many people, understanding how things work, observing the friends, people, society and everything, that’s how I see and understand this weird thing call Love. It is a feeling, and feeling is something very abstract that cannot be defined (well, you can define it but everyone has different definition) and documented. But the truth is, feelings do change from time to time, and my definition on love is about finding someone you are comfortable with, can laugh with the jokes, satisfied sexually, likes his/her great things, and most important, can tolerate and accept the flaws.

So how do you see love? How do you define it?