This is the part 2 of the post about my observation here.
The problem with the society and people nowadays is that it is extremely difficult to find someone who will say what’s in their mind. And when we do, we think that person is too direct or something we crown the word “mean” on their foreheads.
What do I mean by “Do we mean what we say?” Let me give you some scenarios to work with.
Scenario #1:
Your girlfriend is cleaning the house, sweeping the floor, and mopping the floor (just assume that you two are living together). You offer help, but she says, “Oh honey, it’s okay. You have been working whole day so you rest.” or “It’s alright baby, I like to do house chores.” or “You enjoy your football game okay? I want to do it alone.”
What happen next? Before you know it, when you two have a fight, and she uses this against you, saying that you had never helped.
You: “But honey! You said you like to do house chores!”
She: “Ya right, as if I am your maid. Do you think everyone is born to like house chores? You sitting on your ass whole day so I got to do it!”
You: “But dear, you said it was okay because I was working whole day.”
She: “Fuck you. You think you are the only one working whole day? I don’t have to work?”
You: “But baby, you always ask me to continue my football game while you were cleaning.”
She: “Oh yeah, bastard. You can enjoy your football game, and what was I doing? Cleaning up your mess!”
You: “Why can’t you just say so? When I offered help, why can’t you just let me do it? Why can’t you speak your mind?”
She: “Guess what asshole! When I declined your help, why can’t you move your ass and take the initiative to help? Now I am speaking my mind!”
I don’t mean to be sexist, but guys normally mean YES when we say YES, and we mean what we say. Unfortunately, most of the time, women speaks some alien language. When they say they are fine, don’t trust them a bit. When they say NO, well, they mean YES most of the time. That’s why most of the time we have our arguments and that’s why sometimes that leads to serious misunderstanding.
Scenario #2:
Imagine that I bring my dog to your house. He poo right in front of your door, and I quickly asked for paper towel, plastic bag, and a mop. You might be kind enough to decline it and says, “Oh that’s fine. He’s just a lovely dog!” But the truth is, when you were cleaning that place up after my dog, you might be complaining to your wife, “that fucking bastard, his dog shit here and now I got to clean up his shit. What the fuck is he thinking?”
Now, this happened before (not to me of course, because I don’t fuck care what they say and I will just clean up whatever mess I made) and this is real life. Some people just try to be nice to the guests, but then inside their mind, they were cursing the guests and the guests’ families to hell and back. Why can’t you be genuine and let the guests clean up their own mess? Why act like a fucking gentleman and then later accuse them for not doing something right?
Of course, there are a few more scenarios that I can create, but let’s not make this post too long and I certainly not writing a thesis for human psychology.
So what’s your take? What do you think? Do you think that people in this society is telling enough truth and mean what they say? Or do you think you have met a lot of fake-face people?
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