Our parents have a very different way to show us their love.
Example:-
Aunt: “Ahh… Mrs. XXX, your son is very tall and handsome!”
Mom: “Ya meh? No lah, he is normal looking.”
(But she replied the aunt’s comment with a broad smile and with obvious pride)
Aunt: “Ahh.. Mrs. XXX, your daughter is really bright!”
Mom: (broad smile and obviously proud) “Ya meh? No lah, she is just a plain girl.”
Aunt: “Oh Mrs. XXX, so what is your son doing now?”
Mom: “Oh, he is just working at some small company as an engineer lor.”
(Need to guess if she’s smiling and feeling proud?)
Aunt: “Oh but I heard he is the Technical Director of SHELL?”
(No, this is just an example. I am not working for SHELL)
Mom: “Ya lor.. nothing special lah. He is not around all the time since company has to send him to China, so he got no time for family also…”
Aunt: “And I heard your daughter is working as a top surgent doctor with a top hospital.”
Mom: “Aiya, its a lousy job. She got to work long hours and the pay also not good.”
Does it mean that our mom don’t love us? Nope, I don’t think so. (NOTE: I am using mom as prime example because normally women-talk will be like that. Men? Its about share market, cars, women (ahem) and politics) Somehow they just have a different way of showing their pride and love toward us. Maybe they just didn’t want to brag about us, and want to paint a very normal and plain picture of us to their friends, but that doesn’t hide the fact of our parents unconditional love to us. All you got to do is just understand the subtle meaning underneath those words.
If you hear those not-so-well-received comments about you from your parents, don’t think otherwise. All you have to understand is that they have a different way to show their love and affection towards us. Once you accept that, you will have to love them back, unconditionally, because for us human-beings, our days is numbered and you will have to love them while you still can. If not, you will regret it when its too late. (speaking from experience now)
Sometimes, late at night, my mom would call, and asked if I have taken my dinner, if I drank enough water because of the blistering hot weather, and reminded me not to eat too oily food. No matter what she’ll say to others about me, she cares for me a lot.
For me, I got a kick out of listening to what my mom got to say about me in front of the relatives and friends.
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